Yes it's that period where i isolate myself from the world and friends physically and immerse myself in books and a clock-work routine of Home-school-library-exam room-home etc. Two more weeks to go to the December Holidays.
I don't mind that this period makes me "un-cool" because i'll be having the last laugh eventually when i'm earning a decent salary. Even if some ad-exec told me 10% of what i learn is used outside.
The downsides with being home is the usual clawing at each other, i had a tiff with my mother again (she hang up on me, fun!) and my cousin's in hospital again, sigh. Every home has it's dramas i guess.
"My friends would say it's okay but they'd judge me behind my back for dating a person like him.
There'd be that awkward moment when he wouldn't relate with what either my friends or self are talking about.
His friends would find me expensive and spoiled.
She'd be intimidated by my own friends.
it just can't work."
And then i did some research last week.
The above represents various responses i got when i asked some of my friends if they'd date a person who's from the lower middle or lower class areas of society. I couldn't help myself but question them this, "But why does what your friends think about them matter so much?"
One of them said "it'll bring issues like a Mexican soap, one of them might be uncomfortable with the situation, say like when you pay an expensive bill and they can't. It bruises some of them ego-wise."
So when i asked "so why not come down to their level, i mean assuming you really liked them wouldn't you do anything to be happy with and for them?" the answer i got was a saddening one, "i'd try but you know it would affect my image..." Wow, superficial much?
"African men are a macho lot, and for many the very idea of a man-on-man sexual partnership is anathema. Woman-on-woman also.
A man was created specifically to have liaison with a woman, and a woman was created as a tool, exclusively to serve the man, in both productive and reproductive pursuits.It is inconceivable that two such tools would dream of having a liaison other than with the man.
Rather like the tractor dating the combine harvester on the farm.No self-respecting African man would let another man pay for his and his wife's and his children's upkeep."
Retarded thinking isn't it? Just like the Ghanaian President, he joins a bandwagon of backward minds that fail to understand the basic issue of human rights. Heck, i should add women's rights as well, seeing as he called them "tools".
It always fascinates me that in this day and age we have people with such mindsets. Does he know that some of his colleagues, friends and family are possibly gay as well? It's not his fault though, that he thinks this way. Many Africans, especially those from rural areas, have been brought up with the notion that homosexuality is "ungodly and unafrican". Ideas taught by teachers, church movements and general societal norms and principles instilled rudimentary thoughts in not just Ulimwingu, but many others like him.
Honestly speaking as a 22 year old gay student, my analysis of the society thus far has shown me that there's very few individuals, usually restricted to the smaller circles of exposed persons, that think about liberalization of human rights and graft as a way of progress in developing Africa. It is not just limited to Infrastructure, Health and Education. Unfortunately, these open individuals are outside the government. Yes they'll air their opinions but as always, corrupt and stiffly governments laugh them off.
Mr. Cameron is quite smart in making his aid conditional, in that if Africa has to progress as a continent, some fundamentals have to be observed, adopted and followed, beginning with the most basic; human rights. Actually, people are saying that Mr. Cameron is oppressing developing countries. Have those countries stopped to look at what they're doing to minority groups, let alone women? And what of corruption/graft regarding those funds given to them?
Mr. Cameron is being nice by telling them "look, you have rampant discrepancies in the way you handle the funds we give to you but we'll start with human rights first, sort them out." That is the message, plain and clear, he's telling them. And their replies? Refer to the letter Ulimwengu wrote here. One of many crude responses.
Developing countries aren't used to being given conditions. They are however, used to sticking their hands out with bowls in hand, begging for Aid which they'll have difficulties paying back. The same aid that will find its way into the pockets of their corrupt selves. I long for the day when aid is given and is put to 100% use with it's payback on track.
Finally, i can only imagine that China is rubbing it's arm with glee, looking to put it's policies of unconditional aid in exchange for resources they need to use. If developing countries won't listen to their donors, they'll run to China's government.
Are we doomed?
I was out shopping yesterday, the weather was right and the company was good. I can’t explain why i’m so attached to leather! It’s tough, feels good and it’s cow skin being put to good use!
One thing with shopping is that i get hungry after. It was National Sandwich Day in America yesterday so i’d honoured it by having one when i got back to the city centre, it was really good. Screw you diet i prefer fine eating that having bat shit minuscule servings of fishy things like leeks… Shopping and sex, i think these two make women and gay men happy.
November usually tends to be a boring month. The events aren’t as many and considering semester finals are around the corner, it gets busy as well!
Now to start the post properly. Ladies and gentlemen i was at it again!
We know of a very good song called “beng beng beng” by Femi Kuti, one of the more famous African musicians.
So November started off with a bang!
By bang (or beng) i mean sex.
It wasn’t an accident neither was it orchestrated. I went to visit my rugby playing friend, and that evening when we were both mellow, i found myself in bed with him. The sex however, was not mellow. For me, a guy who’s energetic and creative in bed gets me really started, you want to work? I’ll make you work till you sweat! Which is exactly what i did with him. I think that Kings of Leon song “sex on fire” is the most appropriate song for such a scene! Seriously, I got to flex, coil and bend in all manner of positions! He drove it higher and higher and was really good with speed, effort, comfort!
It was like a really good yoga exercise, as a matter of fact when it comes to sex and grading, that guy has 8.5/10! You can’t give a perfect score. He’s a really good top though!
All this on a Tuesday…!
Sex in my opinion shouldn’t be a task, it’s an event. It should make you shake with all this energy after, make you light headed. Not a drab thing of “oh let’s get it over and done with”…
The month should continue on such a high note! My God that was good sex…
|Beng Beng Beng-Femi Kuti|